18 Sex positions for your mate

This is a position that may suggest itself while cuddling on the sofa. The man sits with the woman straddling his lap, facing him. She controls the pace, they can kiss and he can caress her breasts. She moves up and down on him, supporting herself with her knees on the sofa, and her arms around his neck. If they use a dining chair, she can keep her feet on the floor and hold on to the chair back for support if necessary. If she faces away from him, they will be able to achieve deeper penetration, and she could support herself against furniture in front of her.

Side-by-side positions offer a high level of intimacy as they allow a great deal of body contact. The positions are gentle and romantic and can allow for prolonged intercourse. In the "spoons" position the partners lie on their sides with the man behind the woman. The woman pulls her knees up and lifts one slightly to allow easy penetration. In this position the man is free to caress his partner's breasts and genitals. The partners can lie facing each other with the woman's legs wrapped around her partners waist. This position leaves the couple free to caress and kiss and the couple can, by changing the position of their thighs, vary the angle and depth of penetration. If the woman lies on her back with her thighs over the thighs of her partner, he can enter her while at the same time caressing her breasts and genitals.

In this rear entry position, the woman lies face down with the man on top of her. She spreads her legs and he supports his weight on his arms. If she raises her bottom off the bed slightly, perhaps with the aid of a pillow under her hips, then it will be possible to achieve deeper penetration. The man can also lie with his full weight on his partner, from which position it is easy to roll into 'spooning'.

The man stands, holding his partner in his arms. She wraps he legs round his waist and her arms round his shoulders. She can move against him by pulling herself up and down, and he can help her with his arms. This position can be assumed from sitting. It can, of course, be adopted in a very confined space, but it is quite strenuous. From this position you can return to sitting, or the man can gently lower his partner on to a bed or preferably a table, where thrusting can continue without so much exertion.

This position is ideal for when you are unexpectedly overtaken by the urge to make love. It does not require more than a loosening of the clothes if you want. The woman leans over the nearest available piece of furniture and the man enters from behind. It is good for fast exciting sex and gives both partners the opportunity to thrust against one another.

Woman-on-top positions allow the woman to more actively control the sensations, both for herself and her partner. The man has limited mobility and the woman has control over the angle and the depth of penetration. She can also control the speed of the thrusting to suit her own pattern of arousal. These positions are comfortable for women with large partners or where the woman is pregnant. One option is a simple variation of the missionary position. The woman lies on top of the man and guides his penis into her vagina. The couple can vary the position of their legs to vary the sensations. In another woman-on-top position, the woman can sit up. This gives her a full view of her partner, and gives her partner full view of her breasts and genitals which can be extremely arousing. By taking all of her own weight she can control the penetration to her liking. Her partner can caress her breasts and clitoris. The woman can face away from her partner. In this position he can see and sti

Rear-entry positions can be particularly stimulating for both men and women because they stimulate different areas of the vagina and penis. These positions can be pleasurable for those women with a sensitive G-spot because they create the greatest stimulation for this area. For the "doggie", the woman kneels on her hands and knees on the bed or floor and her partner kneels behind her and inserts his penis. Men also enjoy the feel of a woman's bottom against their thighs and these positions allow him to caress his partner's vaginal area, breasts and buttocks while enjoying deep penetration. By dropping down onto her elbows or raising her torso the woman can change the angle of her pelvis and vary the sensation. The woman can lie face down on the bed with her legs open. Her partner then lies on top of her with his penis in position. A woman can also stand or kneel beside the bed while her partner enters her from behind. In this position the man can easily reac

Here the woman lies on her back on the bed and the man lies diagonally across her. She opens her legs to allow him to enter and he rocks gently from side to side. She can guide his movements with the pressure of her hands. This position is somewhat easier to maintain if the man lies beneath on his back and the woman is in control.

You might begin by slowly kissing your partner's breasts, lower belly, thighs and move slowly to her pubic hair. Learn the areas, places and rhythms that give her most pleasure and excitement. Start with the labia and the vaginal entrance. Move your tongue over her genital area, licking the entire vulva. Nuzzle, lick and suck her clitoris, though you don't have to concentrate there. Gently - and tenderly - lick and suck the labia. Many women like to be penetrated by a tongue, but do it gently at first, thrusting slowly in and out. Think about changing angles from time to time, and place a pillow under her hips so that her whole vulva is more accessible. You can also use your hands to feel her breasts and her body at the same time. You can continue in this way until your partner has an orgasm. The time taken to orgasm varies from woman to woman and with time you will recognize your partner's signals. If you begin to get tired try changing what you are doing. Instead

Fellatio: It is relaxing for your partner if he lies down but you can also kneel in front of him as he stands or sits in a chair. As you perform fellatio you can also caress the rest of his body, intensifying the excitement. First kiss and lick his penis, holding the shaft in your hand. Use your tongue to explore the shaft, running it around the ridge where it meets the head and rub it against the frenulum. If you feel ready you can take his penis into your mouth, and slowly move your mouth up and down the shaft. If he moves hips, try to accompany this movement. To control the amount of your partner's penis you take in your mouth wrap your fist around the base of his penis. If stimulation of the penis continues your partner will eventually approach orgasm. If you don't want him to ejaculate in your mouth tell him so that you can withdraw your mouth and continue to bring him to climax with your hand or switch to intercourse. Throughout fellatio your fingers can gently stroke

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For this position you need to try out all your furniture to find a piece of the correct height. The woman lies on the edge of a table, futon or bed covered with quilts and pillows, and spreads her legs wide. The man can begin by kneeling to give her cunnilingus, then he enters her, supporting himself on his knees and holding her legs. This affords him a great deal of control, and the angle of penetration is steep.

The man lies on his back with his legs spread and his penis inside the woman, who also lies down on her back, with her legs spread across his, her toes pointing to his head, and her head away from him. The woman is in control. The partners cannot see each other and sensation is concentrated on the genitals. This position can be adopted from one in which the lovers sit on the bed facing one another, their legs interlaced.

The missionary position is probably the most widely used of all positions. The man has nearly total control during intercourse. The woman can only move her legs to change the angle and depth of penetration. This position offers easy eye contact, kissing, deep penetration and a high level of clitoral stimulation. The man lies on top of the woman and he guides or she guides his erect penis into the vagina. In this position he can control his thrusting, slowing down or speeding up to control when he orgasms. She can spread her legs or wrap them around his buttocks for some control over his thrusting. Another and most pleasurable option for the woman who likes a great deal of clitoral stimulation, is for the man once he has penetrated to move his body forward a little. This brings his pubic area over on top of hers. Instead of the man thrusting in and out, the partners almost grind their pubic areas together. In this position many men will last a little longer and many women will hav

The 'spooning' position is so named because of the close fit of the two bodies. The partners lie on their sides and the man enters from behind. This position is cozy and relaxing, good for slow drowsy lovemaking prior to failing asleep, or on waking during the night. It is also a comfortable position to adopt later in pregnancy when most others put too much pressure on the woman's belly.

Both parties stand, using the wall as support. This position is often used when the desire to make love strikes unexpectedly. Part of the excitement lies in the fact that it is not easy to move in this position.

The man lies on his back, spreading his legs, and his partner lies on top of him, her legs along his, her feet on his. There is a good opportunity for kissing and total body contact. She controls the pace of lovemaking by dragging herself up and down against him. Many women find this position very exciting and are more likely to reach orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation this way than any other. She can vary the position by closing her legs tight while his remain spread, or by getting him to close his, or both. She can also move easily from this position to sit up facing him.

Anal eroticism is probably the oldest manifestation of human sexuality. The Kinsey Institute researchers reviewed seven major studies and surveys going back 40 years to establish the number of people who had tried anal sex and concluded that at least 39% of women had had anal sex. Redbook surveyed 100,000 married women on their sex lives. Among the questions was: How many had tried anal intercourse - and enjoyed it? The survey established that: 43% of married women had tried anal intercourse of these, 40% found it somewhat or very enjoyable 49% didn't like it and 10% had no particular feelings one way or the other This shows that practicing anal intercourse - like other forms of sex - is a personal choice. Both partners have to be completely happy with the experience for it to be included in their lovemaking. It is a good idea to build up to anal sex by trying anal stimulation before full penetration. The area around the anus is sexually very sensitive and for some pe